Fairness in Relationships

Goals

1. Describe a fair relationship.

2. Engage in fair relationships (win/win).

3. Avoid unfair relationships (win/lose or lose/lose).

What

A relationship is fair when it offers equal opportunities and outcomes based on relevant considerations and without bias.

Examples

1. I purchase something, and both the seller and I are satisfied with the exchange.

2. A couple spends time together in ways both perceive as mutually beneficial.

3. A parent and child negotiate boundaries that are appropriate for their roles and needs.

4. A team divides work so that each member feels the distribution is balanced and respectful.

Summary: The essence of fairness is that the parties perceive that they have gotten a just deal. In this context, we call a “just deal” a win for the party involved.

Rationale

Skill with fairness helps you:

• Secure fair outcomes for yourself.

• Avoid situations that are unfair—to you or to others.

• Strengthen collaboration and mutual respect.